If He Can’t Plan a Date, Can He Plan a Future?

Let’s be honest, your girlfriends might plan better dates than he does.
And they don’t even want anything from you.

If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is it so hard for him to just plan something?”, this is your clarity.

Here’s what it really means when someone can’t even plan a simple date.

The Reality

Planning a date isn’t about effort or budget.
It’s about intention.

If he genuinely wanted to see you, you'd never be stuck guessing the when, where, or if.

Uncertainty is a choice. And he’s making it.

What It Actually Means

When he won’t plan a date:

• He’s handing you the emotional labor, for free

• He’s keeping access, without taking responsibility

• He’s showing you exactly where you rank on his priority list (hint: low)

And no, potential does not count as effort. Ever.

The Standard

You don’t need to teach someone how to value you.
You just need to believe them when they show you they don’t.

A man who values you will:

• Set a time

• Set a place

• Show up
  Everything else? Just noise.

The Verdict

You weren’t asking for too much.
You were asking the wrong person.

The right one won’t leave you wondering if you’re a plan or a placeholder.

And if effort feels forced…
It’s because it isn’t there.